I think this probably will get voted down on account of the prevalence of geek social fallacies: http://www.plausiblydeniable.com/opinion/gsf.html :(

There are people in fandom and greater geekdom who believe it is a serious moral failing and a cardinal sin ever to expect them to choose which of two people who have fallen out with one another they will continue to associate with, no matter how damaging and crazy one party's behaviour has been to the other. I have seen it happen even in the case of divorcing couples, where one party has threatened the other's life or safety. :(