I honestly don't see how another user knowing that, "This user doesn't receive emails of Private Messages" is intrusive.
It's hard for me to explain why it feels intrusive, but it does. I guess partly because almost all my other DW settings are private unless I explicitly choose to make them public. But if this setting were opt-in, it wouldn't do what you want it to.
all this does is confirm that this user wishes to remain unreachable.
No, it doesn't. It tells you that the person hasn't set the setting, but it doesn't tell you anything about the person's wishes or whether they saw your message. The person might regularly check their DW inbox, in which case they would see the message even if it's not e-mailed. The person might not be receiving their email for one reason or another, in which case they won't see the message even if it is emailed. So it just pushes the question "Did this person see my message?" out one layer, it doesn't answer the question.
I would support a setting that specifies which users (e.g., "everyone," "access list only," "no one") can send you PMs. LJ has such a setting and apparently notifies you if you try to send a PM to someone who doesn't allow it. If this were opt-in, then it would in fact confirm the user wishes to remain unreachable.
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It's hard for me to explain why it feels intrusive, but it does. I guess partly because almost all my other DW settings are private unless I explicitly choose to make them public. But if this setting were opt-in, it wouldn't do what you want it to.
all this does is confirm that this user wishes to remain unreachable.
No, it doesn't. It tells you that the person hasn't set the setting, but it doesn't tell you anything about the person's wishes or whether they saw your message. The person might regularly check their DW inbox, in which case they would see the message even if it's not e-mailed. The person might not be receiving their email for one reason or another, in which case they won't see the message even if it is emailed. So it just pushes the question "Did this person see my message?" out one layer, it doesn't answer the question.
I would support a setting that specifies which users (e.g., "everyone," "access list only," "no one") can send you PMs. LJ has such a setting and apparently notifies you if you try to send a PM to someone who doesn't allow it. If this were opt-in, then it would in fact confirm the user wishes to remain unreachable.